While I has many thots on this poast, I am at werk. so I can offer only these few immediate reactions.
- the equal & opposite dynamic for the bros is extraversion and charisma. you may have great qualities, but if you don't have that one then you're just not very desirable.
- extraversion and charisma don't make you a "good" person. hitler was extraverted and charismatic.
- you can try to change your personality through mental effort, but it's like trying to lose weight by sucking in your gut. you don't choose your personality; your genes and the first 6 years of your life choose ~75% of it for you.
- I don't like that physical beauty attracts me as much as it does. I would dial that down if I could, but they haven't invented brain chips to do this yet.
- the fact that women have babies and men don't explains why natural selection made them have higher standards for their partners' personalities than men do for them.
And while we’re at criticizing hotness as virtue (also including “she’s aging well because she’s unproblematic”, big thing on the left), can people stop using physical unattractiveness to convey vice (same but reversed, ie when people were posting photos of Kyle Rittenhouse’s mom crying in court and then selfies of themselves saying they are not ugly like her because they’re not evil)
also: "just doesn’t hit the same as it might have in 2018, back when playing into “hot girl” rhetoric felt a little transgressive" - This is so spot on it took me aback. The last time 'hot' lacked the reductive tinge it has now (at least to me) was when Megan Thee Stalli dropped 'Big Ole Freak' in 2019.
A few years prior we'd had Samirah Raheem's viral street interview on being called a "slut" drop, and it felt like something had shifted in the discourse and how we spoke about and internalised physical attractiveness. And perhaps it's my nostalgia-tinted glasses, but that feels so distant from the state of discourse now.
something happened when I wasn't looking (trying to reduce how online I was) and everything changed (but I guess that's life lmao)
I'm so over the "hotness" is a virtue. It's spewed by the same sort who equate wealth with virtue. It's all immodesty of heart in the truest, biblical sense. It's vice and virtue turned upside down, as in Sodom and Gomorrah when the men of the city accused Lot for being inhospitable to them because Lot would not allow enable their homosexual urges and permit them to molest his guest.
Whilst I shall continue appreciating hotness, I nonetheless applaud this essay and think there is nothing in it with which one might reasonably argue. Bravo!
Audrey you have to stop. Your stance is too bold. Your vision too concise. They'll kill you.
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While I has many thots on this poast, I am at werk. so I can offer only these few immediate reactions.
- the equal & opposite dynamic for the bros is extraversion and charisma. you may have great qualities, but if you don't have that one then you're just not very desirable.
- extraversion and charisma don't make you a "good" person. hitler was extraverted and charismatic.
- you can try to change your personality through mental effort, but it's like trying to lose weight by sucking in your gut. you don't choose your personality; your genes and the first 6 years of your life choose ~75% of it for you.
- I don't like that physical beauty attracts me as much as it does. I would dial that down if I could, but they haven't invented brain chips to do this yet.
- the fact that women have babies and men don't explains why natural selection made them have higher standards for their partners' personalities than men do for them.
Yessss.
And while we’re at criticizing hotness as virtue (also including “she’s aging well because she’s unproblematic”, big thing on the left), can people stop using physical unattractiveness to convey vice (same but reversed, ie when people were posting photos of Kyle Rittenhouse’s mom crying in court and then selfies of themselves saying they are not ugly like her because they’re not evil)
how do i inject this into my veins?
also: "just doesn’t hit the same as it might have in 2018, back when playing into “hot girl” rhetoric felt a little transgressive" - This is so spot on it took me aback. The last time 'hot' lacked the reductive tinge it has now (at least to me) was when Megan Thee Stalli dropped 'Big Ole Freak' in 2019.
A few years prior we'd had Samirah Raheem's viral street interview on being called a "slut" drop, and it felt like something had shifted in the discourse and how we spoke about and internalised physical attractiveness. And perhaps it's my nostalgia-tinted glasses, but that feels so distant from the state of discourse now.
something happened when I wasn't looking (trying to reduce how online I was) and everything changed (but I guess that's life lmao)
one who compliments everyone compliments no one
There goes my dream of opening a dojo called Hottie Karate.
I completely agree!!!
I'm so over the "hotness" is a virtue. It's spewed by the same sort who equate wealth with virtue. It's all immodesty of heart in the truest, biblical sense. It's vice and virtue turned upside down, as in Sodom and Gomorrah when the men of the city accused Lot for being inhospitable to them because Lot would not allow enable their homosexual urges and permit them to molest his guest.
Whilst I shall continue appreciating hotness, I nonetheless applaud this essay and think there is nothing in it with which one might reasonably argue. Bravo!
"Noblesse oblige of hotness" 🤌
The term I coined for the antithesis of a Hot Girl™️ is a grandma, a sadly dying breed. Bring back the grandmas!!
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